How to Avoid a Bleeding Relationship by: Apostle Peter

How to Avoid a Bleeding Relationship

by: Apostle Peter

@apostlevick

My intention is to clear some innuendos about what "MEN" do in relationships and why. You will observe that men is written in *capital letter* and quotes for emphasis. The essence of this discussion is to underscore the difference between a *MAN* and a boy in relationships. 

They both possess the same features, they were both conceived and born, but one is made. 

Boys are born while men are made. If you want to save yourself from the trouble of relationships do not stay with a boy, roll with a real man. 

A man is matured (not in age), he has developed intelligence, wisdom and capacity to be a true "LEADER" (another emphasis that distinguish a MAN from a boy).

Boys are learners, they are like an apprentice who learn tradecraft from a Master (MAN) who knows the trade in depth, if you give them your heart to do trial and error, you will end up as a pratical character likened to that been read in *James Hadley Chase* novels or watched on Zee World, you are definitely *on your own.*

Boys are driven by sometimes crazy fantasies. They are driven by emotions, men are driven by deep thoughts that represents realities.

Everyman wakes up with a burning desire to improve on every aspect of his relationship. He wants to oil the system, format and upgrade the operation system for a better and smooth running environment. He believes there’s always something new to learn to trigger better connection and communicating atmosphere.

A man speaks to your heart, a boy speaks to your emotions. A man will not clear you off your feet with sugarcoated words, rather he would make you understand his intent and give you a leverage to decide by yourself, a decision that will make you stronger in confidence at what you are doing, even if you don't end up with him. 

A boy on the other hands is eager to prove self worth, show new tricks as seen in movies, flashes material possessions, he is in a hurry to get down with you but too busy to connect to your heart, he connects with your desires and emotional fantasies.

At times, the goal of a boy is self aggrandisement, they feel a sense of entitlement they want to fulfil it. Being with them is for temporary satisfaction and future regrets. "one down *syndrome*".

Men don't pursue entitlement rather joint growth; they seek to make you happy at all times whether they climbed the mountains to convince you or not.  You are (still) a priority *at all times*.

Men protect their partners and build their self-esteem. Boys on the other hand will mess you up.

If you are accomplished, it is an opportunity for a boy to ride high and squander your resources except you are wise enough to protect it. 

Atime's, a boy would be interested in the relationship as long as he gets what he wants. But your growth is pivotal to a man, his interest is to see you sower and be far better than he met you.