WHEN IS IT OKAY TO BE A FATHER? By: Abdulhameed Abdur-Rahman Elephchild

When is it Okay to be a Father 

By: Abdulhameed Abdur-Rahman Elephchild

"No man should be fearful of marriage but, every man should be frightened of becoming an irresponsible husband/father."
                

Personally, it is responsible to become a father when there is an acceptable likelihood that the child will thrive. And likewise, it is not reasonable to become a father when there is no conviction in making the unborn children flourish.  

There are many ways to disagree with either or both of these formulations, of course. The truth is that you are not managing an inconvenience, you are raising a human being. And when you are not sure of becoming an accountable dad, you should not invite your unborn youngsters to this harsh world. 

Let's hold it this way -- A first son's icon is his dad while the first/second idol of a daughter is also her dad. Now, when a father makes it so tough to persuade his daughter about his ultimate love and care, she will constantly find it true to acknowledge the assertion ”ALL MEN ARE WICKED” ”MEN ARE ALL THE SAME". 

Whenever you listened to a woman voiced those statement's, check out the way she was raised. As a man, before you call yourself a responsible father, you must have been practising this vital issue's concerning child upbringing:

* Raising the child you want and not the child you have.

* Paying adequate vigilance to your child.

* Knowing fully that efforts speak louder than voice. 

* Protecting your child from downfall. 

* Maintaining utmost trust in your child. 

Inviting those unborn kids to the world particularly in a jungle (Nigeria) without adequate preparation is comparable to giving yourself a life of sorrow full of peril. Don't be shocked, your child might have you slain one day. When you raise a child without logical rehearsal, you would be damaging yourself unknowingly, your spouse and those inexperienced kids which are meant to be excellent in life.

Future Upbringing Bad Results: 

* You raised terrorists unknowingly. 

* You raised hoodlums in your supervision.

* You raised harlots struggling with survival.

* You hamper the growth of your beloved nation. 

* Lastly, you suppressed the glory of a child who is presumed to be great. 

One of the reasons why many youths are irresponsible is that their fathers never was (responsible). And when a father is responsible, there are huge likelihoods for a child to be a responsible father too. Every father should remember that a child will follow his illustrations instead of his advise. When you are aspiring to be a better father, try your best to choose a better mother for your children. Without a good wife, being a good father won't be easy to become. 

Iron sharpens iron, not stick!